My Interview in NOW SALT LAKE MAGAZINE
Written By Daisy Blake Dblake@nowsaltlake.com
February 20th 2012 12:35 pm
As we look forward to the first hints of spring, it’s a great time to think about a makeover; out with the old and in with the new — not just in makeup, hair and wardrobe, but in attitude and habit. We talk to four experts in their field about the best ways to slough off the winter and prepare for the new season with a fresh version of you. Our cover girl is Olivia Rochelle Henrie, an artist and tea connoisseur, who we picked because of her unique sense of style. Henrie is going back to the U. of U. to study early childhood development, with the goal of being a kindergarten teacher. She says that to get ready for springtime, she starts by going through her closet and donating all that she doesn’t see herself wearing in the near future. “Then comes the packing up of all my coats, sweaters, scarves and gloves, which opens up new space for cute floral summer dresses,” she says. “A good way of acquiring some fun new spring clothing at no cost is by having a clothing swap with your friends with all of the clothing everyone acquired through out the year.” Read on for more top tips!
Kristen Rafajko: Life coach, mind and space de-clutterer
Rafajko is a single mother, entrepreneur, social media expert and motivational speaker. StyleListe Media, founded by Rafajko in 2009, is an image consulting company. She coaches people to move past different beliefs, feelings, and issues that may be holding them back, or not allowing them to know or be who they truly are. She says a lot of people hold onto past beliefs, emotions, and things people have said to them, which doesn’t allow them to have a clear focus on where they are going. She says she has learned a lot being a single mom who works full time, balances a busy life, as well as trying to take care of herself and personal goals and aspirations. Rafajko says that “anytime you are feeling stuck or challenged is a good time to look at the things that you’re holding onto and the things that may be holding you back. Take the steps to let them go, and de-clutter your mind. When you have a clear mind you can focus on what’s important to you and live a life of authenticity.”
How does cleaning out your closet and simplifying your space help to make one feel like they have a handle on their life?
One of the most limiting beliefs I see with women and clothes is size and past experiences. A lot of women hold onto things that don’t fit anymore because they want to have something to show for being the size they used to be, as well as holding onto things that they wore for special occasions and memories they want to keep. For instance, I used to collect Juicy Couture Track suits in high school, but after I became a mom, I continued to keep them because it reminded me of all my high school experiences as well as a time when I actually had money to spend on Juicy Couture. But they didn’t fit anymore, and every time I saw them, I ended up getting frustrated and upset that I wasn’t that same way, and I would start to beat myself up and feel guilty. When I finally gave them away and started fresh, I freed myself of not being good enough, and eliminated the frustration I felt every time I walked into my closet.
What would be your top three recommendations on de-cluttering for spring?
First off, you need to look at where you want to go in life, as well as look at where you’ve been and where you are now. One of my favorite quotes is: “The road of life twists and turns and no two directions are ever the same. Yet our lessons come from the journey, not the destination.” – Don Williams, Jr.
Sit down and create a vision board of what you wish your life could look like in five to 10 years. Allow yourself to dream the impossible and just focus on the things you would love to enjoy, experience and have. A lot of people get so caught up in the busy schedules, obligations and just trying to get by that they don’t allow themselves to use their imagination or dream about things. If you don’t allow yourself to just dream, you wont realize the things you value most and the small things you could be doing right now to possibly make your dreams come true. Once you’ve made a vision board of what you want your life to look like, compare it to where you’ve been. Look back and learn from your mistakes and notice all the heartbreak that turned out to be good. Realize how far you have come and be proud of your journey. Now compare your vision and your past to where you are today. Now that you have seen how much you have overcome and moved past, you can then learn to see the challenges you face today in a whole new way. Ask yourself about the journey to be where you want and the things you can do to get there.Secondly, take time to let go. You may be holding onto beliefs, emotions, and feelings that won’t allow you to get to where you want. Maybe it’s people who have hurt you in the past, things that people said about you, or beliefs of things you can’t do. Let go. You can’t change the past, as well as you can’t change other peoples minds. All you can do is change the way you feel, react and think about things.
Lastly, take time for yourself. Learn about yourself again, find out the things you enjoy, and why you enjoy them. One thing I challenge my clients to is to do something they loved as a kid. This can be anything from watching favorite movies or cartoons you loved as a kid, playing a sport you haven’t played in a while, or even jumping on a trampoline. Whatever brought you pure enjoyment and happiness as a kid, try it again and allow yourself to not feel any guilt, self-consciousness or shame in what you are doing. Another thing you should do is challenge yourself to try something you’ve never done, or thought you would never be able to do. We learn the most about ourselves when we are challenged or going through tough times. Learn something new and enjoy it.